5 Ways to be the best you…For You!

To be the best version of ourselves involves having a healthy solar plexus chakra.  (Chakras are vortexes of energy in the body.)  Each chakra is associated with different physical, emotional and spiritual aspects.  When a chakra is healthy, energy flows freely through the physical body.  When blockages or depletion occur in the chakras, our physical body suffers.

Our solar plexus chakra is just below our ribs where our stomach is located.  It’s our main energy centre both affecting and affected by our relationships; to our own power, responsibility, and sense of self, and our relationships with others. The solar plexus also governs our creativity in life, and how well we can bring through and create according to it.

Power doesn’t mean how much influence or control over others we have, but rather our internal power, how much of our own values, integrity, self and soul we live by.  How good our sense of self is and how much we live according to it.

The physical anatomy of our solar plexus includes our organs, spleen, liver, pancreas, kidneys and adrenal glands, our mid to lower thoracic spine, and the lower part of our lungs.  It also includes the energy running from all the meridians that pass through these organs.

Energetically at the moment in the world all that is out of balance is being bought to the surface, which includes any power imbalances.  This is also happening at our personal level of experience.  Maybe you are making some big changes to your work life or home life, maybe you are unable to continue at the same pace, with the same lifestyle & dietary choices.  Perhaps your physical body is exhausted (adrenal issues), or your liver is sluggish and you feel tired and lethargic, or maybe you just can’t seem to create in your life what you would like.  Maybe you feel as if your boundaries are always being crossed or not even seen or not even being recognised.   Maybe you find it hard to say no?  These are all examples of a solar plexus that needs balance and while they are present, finding and being your best version of yourself will feel like pushing sh*! up hill!!! So here’s a little guide to being your best self…

5 Ways to be the best you for You (and create and maintain a healthy solar plexus!)

1. Don’t wait for permission…this is a biggy.  A lot of women and people in general wait for permission without even realising.  We wait to be told we are finally good enough at something to begin to do it, or that there is finally a window of time unaccounted for that we can use for ourselves, to get that haircut or do that course get that job, or most importantly we wait to be told by our parents, partner or society that we are worthy of being loved.  We wait to be told it’s ok to ask for something or to have needs.

If we wait for permission, we will ALWAYS be waiting.  

So do whatever it is you’ve been waiting to get permission for NOW! Grant yourself permission NOW!  You create confidence by acting and participating not waiting to become confident to act. Remember giving to yourself is one of the best ways to build self esteem and a healthy solar plexus.

2. Recognise yourself as an equal and begin acting that way.  This is not to say to see yourselves as superior to others, but instead to recognise your value.  Value can be financial for sure, but value can come in a whole host of other costumes; your time, your care, your humour, your ability to listen, your wisdom and kindness, your practical assistance, that great meal you cooked for family and friends.  We are all here in this ‘life’ thing, no one of us is more special than the next.  Each of us is naked under our clothes, grows old, gets sick and snotty, farts and poos.  So next time you find yourself allowing yourself putting someone up on a pedestal or feel intimidated by someone elses perceived success picture them with one of the afore mentioned reality checks  It will help you remember we are all equal and not give away your sense of self.   (Putting someone up on pedestal only gives them a chance to fall off!)

3. Set boundaries and say no with Grace & Class.  If our solar plexus is congested we can feel overly responsible for others and we can tend to feel we should or have to do do more for them than we feel is right, and not be ok to say no.  If we do say no this can create feelings of guilt. When we do things for others and become overcommitted and resentful we are not only not taking responsibility to meet our own needs, by setting boundaries around our time and needs, but we are taking too much responsibility for others.  And even though well intentioned, we can be taking another’s power to take care of themselves.  The solar plexus chakra is all about responsibilility. We always have a choice in how we respond to people.  We don’t have to get involved in their dramas.  Most importantly say no with Grace & Class and come from a place of love!  If this feels difficult, pause, breathe, smile and then respond.  It will be much easier.  To see a great instagram video on responding to others in tricky situations check out the amazing Alice Nicholls from ‘The Whole Daily” and her blog ‘When someone picks a fight’.

4. Don’t wait for someone to take responsibility for you.  Now is the time to let go of any old childhood wounds around wanting someone to step up, to make sure you are ok, to take care of you or reassure you that you are safe.  This doesn’t mean its not ok to have friends or partners that care about us, but its up to us to take responsibility for ourselves.  To say..I’m going to be my best at that..not for anyone else …but for me.  I’m going to make sure I’m ok.

5. Physical & Energetic therapies & Meditation can assist you to clear any old thoughts and patterns and  get your energy flowing & back in balance so it’s easier for you to maintain. Why not try some yoga, acupuncture, craniosacral therapy and or a healing. Remember asking for help when you need it is already a good step towards a healthy solar plexus!

To book a session head over to the bookings page or email me:  talia@taliaseychell.com.au

Resolve not to take life personally and so seriously, Laugh with and at yourself.  As my dear friend Tikki reminded me the other day “we are all here just learning lessons”.

Thanks for reading this far…and for those who want to read more:

A personal story.  Sometimes it helps to hear a personal story to help make sense of the theories and although it’s scary being vulnerable, I challenge myself to be exactly that in my posts, to enable others to see their own human ness.  For a great ted talk on being vulnerable watch this:

5 Ways to be the best you…FOR YOU!

Posted on 1st May, by admin in Talia's Blog.

 

5 Ways to be the best you..for you… 

To be the best version of ourselves involves having a healthy solar plexus chakra.  (Chakras are vortexes of energy in the body.)  Each chakra is associated with different physical, emotional and spiritual aspects.  When a chakra is healthy, energy flows freely through the physical body.  When blockages or depletion occur in the chakras, our physical body suffers.

Our solar plexus chakra is just below our ribs where our stomach is located.  It’s our main energy centre both affecting and affected by our relationships; to our own power, responsibility, and sense of self, and our relationships with others. The solar plexus also governs our creativity in life, and how well we can bring through and create according to it.

Power doesn’t mean how much influence or control over others we have, but rather our internal power, how much of our own values, integrity, self and soul we live by.  How good our sense of self is and how much we live according to it.

The physical anatomy of our solar plexus includes our organs, spleen, liver, pancreas, kidneys and adrenal glands, our mid to lower thoracic spine, and the lower part of our lungs.  It also includes the energy running from all the meridians that pass through these organs.

Energetically at the moment in the world all that is out of balance is being bought to the surface, which includes any power imbalances.  This is also happening at our personal level of experience.  Maybe you are making some big changes to your work life or home life, maybe you are unable to continue at the same pace, with the same lifestyle & dietary choices.  Perhaps your physical body is exhausted (adrenal issues), or your liver is sluggish and you feel tired and lethargic, or maybe you just can’t seem to create in your life what you would like.  Maybe you feel as if your boundaries are always being crossed or not even seen or not even being recognised.   Maybe you find it hard to say no?  These are all examples of a solar plexus that needs balance and while they are present, finding and being your best version of yourself will feel like pushing sh*! up hill!!! So here’s a little guide to being your best self…

5 Ways to be the best you for YOU (and create and maintain a healthy solar plexus!):

1.  Don’t wait for permission…this is a biggy.  A lot of women and people in general wait for permission without even realising.  We wait to be told we are finally good enough at something to begin to do it, or that there is finally a window of time unaccounted for that we can use for ourselves, to get that haircut or do that course get that job, or most importantly we wait to be told by our parents, partner or society that we are worthy of being loved.  We wait to be told it’s ok to ask for something or to have needs.

If we wait for permission, we will ALWAYS be waiting.  

So do whatever it is you’ve been waiting to get permission for NOW! Grant yourself permission NOW!  You create confidence by acting and participating not waiting to become confident to act. Remember giving to yourself is one of the best ways to build self esteem and a healthy solar plexus.

2.  Recognise yourself as an equal and begin acting that way.  This is not to say to see yourselves as superior to others, but instead to recognise your value.  Value can be financial for sure, but value can come in a whole host of other costumes; your time, your care, your humour, your ability to listen, your wisdom and kindness, your practical assistance, that great meal you cooked for family and friends.  We are all here in this ‘life’ thing, no one of us is more special than the next.  Each of us is naked under our clothes, grows old, gets sick and snotty, farts and poos.  So next time you find yourself allowing yourself putting someone up on a pedestal or feel intimidated by someone elses perceived success picture them with one of the afore mentioned reality checks  It will help you remember we are all equal and not give away your sense of self.   (Putting someone up on pedestal only gives them a chance to fall off!)

3.  Set boundaries and say no with Grace & Class.  If our solar plexus is congested we can feel overly responsible for others and we can tend to feel we should or have to do do more for them than we feel is right, and not be ok to say no.  If we do say no this can create feelings of guilt. When we do things for others and become overcommitted and resentful we are not only not taking responsibility to meet our own needs, by setting boundaries around our time and needs, but we are taking too much responsibility for others.  And even though well intentioned, we can be taking another’s power to take care of themselves.  The solar plexus chakra is all about responsibilility. We always have a choice in how we respond to people.  We don’t have to get involved in their dramas.  Most importantly say no with Grace & Class and come from a place of love!  If this feels difficult, pause, breathe, smile and then respond.  It will be much easier.  To see a great instagram video on responding to others in tricky situations check out the amazing Alice Nicholls from ‘The Whole Daily” and her blog ‘When someone picks a fight’.

4..Don’t wait for someone to take responsibility for you.  Now is the time to let go of any old childhood wounds around wanting someone to step up, to make sure you are ok, to take care of you or reassure you that you are safe.  This doesn’t mean its not ok to have friends or partners that care about us, but its up to us to take responsibility for ourselves.  To say..I’m going to be my best at that..not for anyone else …but for me.  I’m going to make sure I’m ok.

5..Physical & Energetic therapies & Meditation can assist you to clear any old thoughts and patterns and  get your energy flowing & back in balance so it’s easier for you to maintain. Why not try some yoga, acupuncture, craniosacral therapy and or a healing. Remember asking for help when you need it is already a good step towards a healthy solar plexus!

To book a session head over to the bookings page or email me:  talia@taliaseychell.com.au

Resolve not to take life personally and so seriously, Laugh with and at yourself.  As my dear friend Tikki reminded me the other day “we are all here just learning lessons”.

 

Thanks for reading this far…and for those who want to read more:

A personal story.  Sometimes it helps to hear a personal story to help make sense of the theories and although it’s scary being vulnerable, I challenge myself to be exactly that in my posts, to enable others to see their own human ness.  For a great ted talk on being vulnerable watch this:

This last month was a huge astrologically.  One Lunar Eclipse, The Cardinal Grand Cross and to top it off a Solar Eclipse.  I for one am saying thank god its over!  I’ve been down a few deep rabbit holes.  The Lunar eclipse was all about drawing to the surface the ‘shadow’ side, or the bits of us that are hidden well beneath the surface to be ‘eclipsed’ or healed.  The Solar Eclipse was about bringing the truth to the surface.  The letting go of the ego and being in the dark for a while to see our soul truth.

I was challenged on an even deeper level, the gift being an even greater step into my own power and sense of self.  Rationally of course I knew these challenges to make no sense in my current life but a part of me that was stuck back at the time of the ‘trauma’ or ‘wound’ needed to catch up, be bought back into love & grow.

I was challenged on feeling like I had no choices which arose from a childhood experience of my mother passing away suddenly and being left with two siblings to whom I had an automatic parenting role with seemingly at the time no choice.  Now when I feel like I have no choice it triggers this old wound and my reaction is soooo disproportionate to the actual experience.  I become like a caged tiger without escape.

I was also challenged on an old wound around disappointment in the darker side of humanity.  This came from as a child believing and loving people as you do so unconditionally at that time of your life, and being exposed very young to abuse, domestic and sexual, suicide, murder and other atrocities.  As a young person I was deeply affected and grieved the loss of assumed goodness of beings and became ‘disappointed in humanity’.  This served me to get where i am, but for the next stage of my own evolution, and the collective as a whole, I needed to let go of the old wound, the judgement of myself and others and the disappointment of what i view as others bad choices, and just come back to myself.  Seeing others as not responsible to me or for me, letting go of that childhood wound of desperately wanting someone to step up and take care of me, to prove to me my world is safe, to be what i deemed as ‘responsible’, is to reclaim my sense of self and stand in my own power.

The way to heal our aspects is to stay present with them.  To take responsibility and ownership of them, and observe them without getting pulled into the stories that have kept them circling in both our physical, spiritual and energetic experiences.

For me this full moon literally dragged up one of my deepest shadows and stories.  Ones of the Solar Plexus.  It was a great reminder that life is not about being safe and absent from experiences, but rather about staying present with an open heart and riding the wave without getting drawn in.  This isn’t always easy and takes consistent commitment and practice, hence the term ‘a spiritual practice’. Life is just simply about being present to what arises, bringing it back into love and acceptance, and in doing so becoming more whole and truer more complete version of yourself.

With Love Laughter & Care on your Journey,

Talia x